Create the positive circumstances you want!
The people who make it in life, look around for the circumstances they want and if they cannot find them, they create them. George Bernard Shaw
The past 7 years of Jade Goody’s life are a perfect example of how we can change our lives around to create the circumstances we want. Despite a rocky start, and ending up in bad debt that resulted in her being evicted from her house, from 2002 Jade decided to turn her life around creating the circumstances she wants, leaving her loved ones behind not in debt but as a millionaire, with people around the world paying tribute to her. I am certain her courage and bravery will be remembered for a long time.
What about you? Will those close to you be able to say that you did all you could to create the circumstances you want? To Be successful in what ever you choose to do however big or small?
“Success is an option in everbody’s life”.Ketan Hirani
As the recession is affecting more and more people every day, it is time for us to take our future into our own hands and make it want we want it to be. As Les Brown says: “ it is time to get your mind right, as without a right mind you are nothing“. Many people and businesses already realise that to weather the economic storm, they need to educate the mind and spent time on learning the skills we are not taught in school also referred to as soft skills or personal development skills.
“A shift is taking place, this is a new day and if you want to make it, you need to take your future into your own hands.” Les Brown
In a special Success University call Les Brown stated that :” Success University can give you the key to unlock a brand new future for yourself and those you care about. It can give you the pencil that can empower people to write a new chapter in their life. Success University is a tool to help any person to develop the mind to be unwaivable and create the circumstances you want.”
Whether you want to be a world class mum or dad, husband or wife or human being or you just want to improve on the skills you already have or want to be able to help others to develop the mind they need to succeed in life, Success University is a vehicle that you can plug into to achieve that.
Success University is the 1st company that has personal development as it’s actual product. If you are looking for a way to increase you income you can plug into Success university and while you are learning new skills, learn to earn a living as well.
Make a decision today to create the positive circumstances you want!
Gladys Walton
Become an Agreeable Person
“Having an agreeable manner is one of the most important habits you can cultivate. People love those who are agreeable and dislike those who disagree. To be agreeable with anyone who is critical of you, either agree if it’s true or agree with the critic’s right to their opinion.” Allan & Barbara Pease
I know many of you reading this will probably wonder what is wrong with the authors of that statement or with me for putting it on here, when you first started reading it, however as you read the last lines you realise that they are not telling us to agree with what we think is wrong. Instead of strongly disagreeing and making the other person feel unimportant, we are advised to learn to agree with the fact that everyone has the right to have their own opinion. I must say this is not very easy as human nature likes to be right and some of us more than others want our own opinion to be the one that is upheld, to the extent that quarrels, fights and ruined friendships could be the end result.
“Often, you will disagree with your critic’s opinion, but you can still agree with their right to have an opinion, however silly you think their opinion is.” Allan & Barbara Peace
During our camping trip with a group of sixteen children, just as we thought all was going well and the children were nicely playing, a 5 year old boy ran in to tell me that my 4 year old daughter had thrown a seed at him and it hit his back. Eventhough I was thinking, that could not have hurt so why are you telling me this, I walked with him to find my daughter. I asked her if what he said was true, and told her she has to apologise. As she refused, and didn’t even batter an eyelid to tell me so, I told her she had to come in with me until she was ready to do so. As we reached the tent, she blurted out ” why should I say sorry, it did not even hurt and he shouted at me for doing it“. There we had the full story, ofcourse I agreed with my daughter, but couldn’t just take her side and dismiss his, so we went back to him to confirm what she said, and told him he would have to say sorry as well for shouting. They both agreed to that and the sorries were said. This was exhausting to watch and deal with at 4 and 5, imagen when they get older and don’t want to agree with the fact that someone else is entitled to their own opnion, no matter how silly or pathetic it might seem.
I learned five keys to becoming an agreeable person from Allan & Barbara Peace which I would like to share with you:
- Decide to be agreeable with every person you meet. Develop and agreeable nature and make others feel right.
- Agree with the Truth. Let others know that you agree with something they said. Nod your head and say, ‘Yes, you’re right’ or ‘I agree with you’.
- Agree with your critic’s right to an opinion. Even when you think what they are saying is complete nonsense, acknowledge that it’s OK for them to think that way while, at the same time, you restate what you believe to be true.
- Admit it when you are wrong. People who admit fault are admired by others but most people prefer to deny, lie or lay blame…If you’re wrong simply say: ‘ I was wrong…’, ‘I certainly got that wrong…’ or ‘I really blew it…’
- Avoid Arguing. You can rarely win an argument, even if you’re right. Arguing loses friends and credibility and gives fighters what they want- a fight.
Start with these success habits today and become a more agreeable person.
Gladys Walton
Don’t Worry, just take the first step!
“Never think about what you don’t want to happen. Only think about what you do want, regardless of the outcome of a situation. What you think about is what you’ll usually get.” Allan & Barbara Peace
I spent the whole of last week camping with a group of sixteen children between the age of 4 and 14. We had a great time watching the children play together and forming new relationships and strenghtening the ones already formed. It was amazing watching their determination to get their activities done to earn their badges, eventhough they were at times tired and even scared.
At a funday held in a nearby village they were able to do their climbing to finish their fittness fun badge. Most of them found it easy to climb to the top, but repelling, just leaning back as if falling to be able to walk down the wall, brought tears to many eyes. My 9 year old daughter even fell down while attempting to get down, leaving all watching gasping and holding their breath, but you know what, with one of her friends she went up again and again until they both felt comfortable just leaning back and walking down.
The Fear of falling stopped my son from just holding on to the rope and leaning back. Eventhough we kept telling him he could do it and his friends started calling his name and clapping to encourage him to do it, he did not seem to trust that holding on to the rope with both hands would be enough to carry the weight of his body while leaning back. It took the instructor to climb up, tell him to hold on to the rope and push if back, leaving him no way out but to walk down the wall. He was very emotional when he reached down, but glad he did it. Some gave up half way up and others did not even manage to pluck up the courage to start climbing.
“Fear is nothing more than a physical reaction to thinking about the consequences you don’t want. Most of your worries will never come to pass anyway, so they are nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real. Allan & Barbara Pearce
How many of us as adults still go through life afraid to make a change, or take a risk to achieve our dreams or goals. How many of us feel that starting a new business or even looking at a new business opportunity that could improve our life, help us to become more successful, become more confident, help us to make more friends, have more holidays paid for upfront, or just earn the extra money needed to comfortably affort our bills without having to work day and night to achieve the same result, is too much of a risk? Too big a change to make, as we will have to start to genuinly put others first, as helping them to achieve their dreams will help us achieve ours, or we will have to give more of ourself and step out of our little cocoon or wall we build around us, or even start to belief that we are worth the rewards that come with building a successful network marketing or internet marketing business.
I heard it said once on a personal development cd that: Worry is like a rocking chair it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.
Studies have shown that of all the things we worry about in life:
- 87 % never happen
- 7% actually occur
- 6 % you will have some influence over the outcome
Looking at these results, it means that most of the things that we worry about in life won’t happen and that we have little or no control over the few things that do happen. So it doesn’t pay to worry about the things you fear. Approach Fear for what it really is :
False Evidence Appearing Real
So don’t worry, just take the first step!
Gladys Walton
Consider your dominant thoughts!
“They can, because they think they can.” Virgil
For the past two days I have had to take my girls to the leisure centre to do what they love doing best.. Swimming. Instead of playing, their focus on both days was more on practising for when the swimming lessons start again in September as they want to do well to get to the next level. As they love swimming, they have been watching the Olympics and saw Michael Phelps swim the race of his life winning the gold medal. Out of curiosity I asked them if they thought he became that good overnight. I felt proud as my 9 and 6 year old answered that he would have to practise for hours every day to become good enough to win Olympic gold. They said:
“he could not have lessons once a week like we do, he needs to swim every day, and if we want to get better, we need to swim more“.
How many of us find it difficult to grasp the fact that to be successful, we need to be disciplined enough to do whatever it takes to achieve our goal. To become a gold medalist, we need to think like a gold medalist, talk like a gold medalist and walk like a gold medalist. We need to be willing to pay the price no matter how high it is. We cannot win gold if we swim for bronze, or even worse practice just enough to win bronze, and expect to win gold.
Just like a little bit of exercise doesn’t work to win gold, a little bit of positive thinking doesn’t achieve positive results. We need to look at positive thinking in the same way we look at the amount of excercise needed to win gold, or to loose weight. A little bit will not get the job done.
“You must take control of your mental activity and think positively throughout each and every day until it becomes a habit.” Jeff Keller
Jeff Keller tells us that if we have a goal we want to achieve, thinking, positive results, has to become our Dominant thought. We cannot expect positive results, if we only spent 10 seconds thinking positively… and the remaining 16 waking hours dwelling on negative outcomes. If you have set a goal to achieve, or if you have a mission or a vision for your life, work at it as if you were working to qualify for the Olympics. Stop and take a moment to think about your dominant thoughts in all the important areas of your life. Are your thought helping you to move forward, or are they holding you back?
Whatever it is that you want to achieve in your life, Success University can help you to learn the success principles you need to make sure your dominant thoughts are on achieving your goals and dreams.
“Whether you think you can-, or you think you can’t – you’re right!” Henry Ford
Consider your dominant thoughts!
Gladys Walton
What is Your Answer?
“Say you are well, or all is well with you, and God shall hear your words and make them come true.” Ella Wheeler Wilcox
As I was going through my bookshelf today, looking for another personal development book to read, to get some more inspiration from, I was amazed to find that in the book I picked up to read, there is a whole chapter devoted to how we answer the question, How are you? I don’t know about you, but for many years I did not consciously stop to think about how I answer this question. We are taught when young what to answer to the question, how are you? As we get older the answer, I’m fine, thank you, becomes just a formality and sometimes while still answering it, the person that asked it has already moved on.
“A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.” Unknown
While reading Attitude is Everything by Jeff Keller, I discovered that this simple question How are you? and our answer to it, is not such a small thing at all. In fact our answer to this question as small as it might be tells a lot about you and your attitude. Jeff Keller tells us that, “your response can literally shape your attitude”. I have learned that our responses to How are you? can be classifed into three categories: Negative, Mediocre and Positive Responses. Let’s take a look at all three.
- Negative Responses. Some of the negative replies to How are you? , are “Lousy“, “Terrible“, “I’m Tired“, “It’s not my day“, “Thank God it’s Friday” and ” Don’t ask“. Remember the last time you asked someone how they are and they answered “don’t ask”, and then continued to poor out a long story full of complaints of all that went wrong, leaving you wandering why you asked them how they were. I have asked myself why I bothered many times and you have to admit, when someone gives a negative response to how are you? It does not make either of you feel any better. In fact, negative phrases can “poison your attitude.. and turn off other people”.
- Mediocre Responses. These are a little better than the negative ones, but still have space for improvement. Some of these are: “I’m Okay“, “Not too bad“, “Could be worse“, “Same old,same old“, “Hangin’ in there” and “Fine“. Do you really want to do business with or spend a lot of time with someone who thinks that life is “not too bad”? When we use words like these, we diminish our energy. It is not easy to say “Could be Worse”, with a lot of enthusiasm, and an upright posture. Jeff Keller says: ” people who use mediocre words will develop mediocre attitude.. and get mediocre results.
- Positive Responses. These are the group of enthusiastic people who say: “Terrific“, “Fantastic“, “Great“, “Excellent“, “Super“, “I’m on top of the world“, “It doesn’t get any better“. People who use these positive responses, have a bounce in their step, and you feel a little better just by being around them. I don’t know about you but I felt a lot better and energised when reading this list. If given a choice, I would rather be around people who are positive and full of life, then those who are negative and listless.
It’s like the old saying that everybody lights up a room – some when they walk into the room.. and some when they walk out! Which one do you want to be? I’m sure you want to be someone that lights up the room when they walk in. If you find yourself in the negative or mediocre group, think about revising your response and join the positive group.
When I started to study on Success University and learned more about the power of the mind, I started to say “I’m good” instead of “I’m fine” and I have to admit it made me feel good and made some of my friend feel good as well. Now I have been challenged to step it up a bit and say ” I’m Excellent”.
As we get what we expect in life, join me in the positive group, and be a witness to your posture becoming more upright, and see how other people are attracted to your energy and vitality, causing your business and personal relationships to improve, helping you on your way to get what you expect to get in life.
Well, How are you?
I Hope I can hear you say E-X-C-E-L-L-E-N-T!
Gladys Walton
Dream Big Dreams
“People who dream small dreams continue to live lives as small people.” Robert T Kiyosaki
I am so excited today. Yesterday was my birthday and for the first time in..(I’m not telling)..years, I spent the whole day doing business, leaving me no time to have a pity party, bake myself a cake, because I don’t trust anyone to make it as I like it, or cooking myself dinner exactly how I want it, as I don’t want my day to be ruined. How sad! Well this year I booked a business appointment in the morning which took several hours, leaving me just enough time when we arrived home again to get ready for our second Thursday evening presentation of Success University in a nearby hotel. I decided to start this year as I want it to continue, making my life what I want it to be, working at achieving my dreams and believe me they are big!!
Reading Robert Kiyosaki’s book ‘Business Shool ’ , I learned that there are 5 types of dreamers, they are:
- Dreamers who dream in the past. These are people like ex-football stars, or people who graduated from a prestigeous university, whose good days are behind them and all they can talk about, is the days when they were famous. If you are one of these people, create a new dream in the furure to work towards and come alive again, as people who dream in the past are people whose life is over.
- Dreamers who dream only small dreams.These are people who only dream small dreams, as they want to be confident that they will be able to achieve it. The sad thing is that eventhough they know they can achieve it, they never do. They are the people who say later in life, ” I should have done that years ago, but never got round to it”.
- Dreamers who have achieved their dreams and have not set a new dream. A lot of people who achieved the dream they had in highschool, after achieving the dream and working in that profession for years, end up bored with life. If you are one of these, It is time for a new dream and a new adventure.
- Dreamers who dream big dreams but do not have a plan on how to achieve them…so they wind up achieving nothing. These are people who often say “I’ve just had a major breakthrough”, let me tell you all about it or “This time I’m going to make this work”. They are trying to achieve a lot, and try to do it on their own. Very few people achieve their dreams on their own, so find a plan, and a team that will help you make your big dreams come true.
- Dreamers who dream big dreams, achieve those dreams and go on to dream bigger dreams. I want to be this kind of person, don’t you?
I have found that being involved in network marketing, learning from and associating with people who have achieved their dreams and people who are working at achieving their dreams, has been very encouraging, in a that everyone is encouraged to dream big dreams and achieve them.
“I support the network marketing industry because it is an industry made up of people who truly want people to dream big dreams and then it supports those people in creating a business plan, providing the training, the discipline, and the support to have their dreams come true.” Robert T. Kiyosaki
What is your big dream? Stop what you are doing and think, allow yourself to dream, then write down your dreams.
If you are someone who has big dreams and if you are a person who would love to help and support others to achieve their big dreams, then joining our Success university team is definitely something for you. You will be part of a business and a team of people who help others make their dream come true.
Dream big Dreams!
Gladys Walton
Identify your vision part 2
“There is no labour from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought; it is the hardest work in the world.” And yet it is the ” sustained and consecutive thought” about our vision that is the first and primary labour of achievement.” Wallace D. Wattles
I told my mum at the age of 3 that I wanted to be a teacher and my vision developed as I went through the school system. My mum and dad decided I could go to study in The Netherlands. As I was nearing the end of what is the equivalent of A-levels, that would be the ideal time to go. However, as during that time, we had one military coupe after another, the economy had suffered and all the flights out of Suriname had to be paid for in foreign currency. As we could not afford to pay for a ticket in Dutch guilders at the time, we just left it all in God’s hand and I enjoyed my summer holidays.
As we neared the end of October 1992 one of my mums clients( my mum was the best dressmaker around) blurted out without knowing why, that on the 2nd November there is a flight scheduled to The Netherlands and there are some seats that can be paid for in Surinamese Guilders. I still don’t know how my mum got the money together so fast, but she did. My mum told her what we wanted to do and the lady booked the ticket for me just in time.
On the 2nd November I was on my way to The Netherlands, leaving my family behind but feeling at peace as I was on my way to achieve my vision. My uncle had already made all the necessary enquieries at the College of Higher Education in Rotterdam, so I went for an interview and was told I had to take a exam to test my level of English. I passed that with flying colours, but was told that I had to start the next school year, as I had already missed a month and a half of education. I knew I could catch up and was very upset to not be aloud to do so and even more to waste a whole year.
I accepted it and relaxed spending the next few months doing computer courses and typing courses to keep myself going and finding little jobs to do. Asking why every time I thought about where I could have been in my studies, but still telling myself God must have a purpose for this. And sure he did.
“Belief is the basis of all action, and, this being so, the belief that dominates the hearts or mind is shown in the life.” James Allen
I came accross a lot of students who had attempted studying English and had failed and gone over to study Dutch as English was too diificult. Instead of putting me of, this made me more determent to show I was going to do it. I even bought the books of one of the students who had gone over to Dutch. I was not giving up on my dreams, because of other peoples experiences. I decided that someone elses experiences and failures were not going to be my reality.
I started my final four years in achieving my vision in 1993 and after the fist 3 months, heard that the college was starting a new programme called ‘ Double Degree’ between Bath College of Higher Education now Bath University College in England and the College in The Netherlands. Only 10 students from each college could qualify, to make up a group of 20 students. 10 Dutch and 10 English. The 10 who finished their first year with no work outstanding or any courses to resit. To make an already long story short. I was one of the ten who spent 3 years travelling up and down spending 6 months of the year in England and 6 months in The Netherlands. Starting to think in English from a young age was now serving me well as I did not have any troubles writing essays or other projects in Dutch first and then translate into English only to be told that the grammer is not correct. I could do my research and write my essays all in English as my mind and thoughts had been trained. Needles to say that there were students who already gave up in the first year and others who did not make it near the end and others who gave up with just one subject to resit.
I, thank God, graduated in 1997 with two degrees, one from each College and am a qualified Teacher of English. My whole vision was fulfilled. My mum could not stop talking about me telling her when I was only young that I was going to do this, and now she was witnessing me having done it. I met my husband in my last year got married one month after graduation and am still living in England now encouraging you to identify your vision. What ever you want to achieve, if you believe it, you can achieve it.
What is your vision for your future, your ideal life? Is it written down? Do you think about it and review it often? Is your life organized around goals and objectives that will ensure your vision is reached?
I now have another vision which Success University is helping me to achieve. If you want to join me in learning how you too can achieve your vision find out more today with our free trial.
Gladys Walton
Identify your vision
“The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart-this you will build your life by; this you will become.” James Allen
At the tender age of 3, I told my mum that I would be a teacher when I grew up. As I knew the ABC rhyme my mum used to read me of by heart and did not have any brothers or sisters to practice on, my dolls became my pupils. Everyday they had to be in school on time to learn their ABC and the text I had learned for church that week. Of course as I started school and learned more, I was able to impart more knowledge to them, until my younger sister and brother were old enough to sit down and take their place, which was nice as I did not have to answer my own questions.
As I went through primary school, eventhough I enjoyed it and loved my teachers, I knew that was not the teacher I wanted to be. I told my mum just that. When she asked ‘what kind of teacher do you want to be then?’ I had to answer ‘I don’t know’.
Secondary school helped me to identify the details of my vision. As I went from one class to the next, being taught different subjects by different teachers, I knew that was the teacher I wanted to be. One who just specialised in one subject. But what? As I went through the different subjects, I discovered that I had a love for languages and found it quite easy to remember and pronounce words in English and Spanish, as these were the two languages taught at that time. At that moment a vision was born that I would hold on to and cherish and glroify over and over in my mind and pursue no matter what.
I went home and told my mum that I was going to be a language teacher, English or Spansh or both, but not only that, as the years went by I told her I would love to study the language I am going to teach in the country it is spoken in. Eventhough my mum could not see how the detailed part of my vision was going to be accomplished, she always encouraged me and told me to just pray and believe I can do it. As English was my favourite I always spent a lot of time studying it, reading it and speaking it whenever I had the chance. Instead of translating what I wanted to say from Dutch to English, I started to think in English and speak to myself in English. I had a vision and I was on my way to achieving it.
“ The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” No doubt it’s because the massess are without a vision for their lives. Henry Thoreau
As Suriname is a former Colony of The Netherlands, a big part of my family moved to The Netherlands in the 70 ’s as Suriname became independent. One of my uncles who came back for a visit, realised my potential and encouraged my mum to sent me to The Netherlands to study. After a few more people mentioned it my mum started to think about it. I was not too excited as I wanted to study English in an English speaking country, not in another Dutch speaking country, but I could see the potential of going.
The next part of my story is to encourage any one who does not have a vision for their life to stop what you’re doing today and identify the vision for your life. Thoreau gives you the reason why when he says:
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
This is exactly what happened with the rest of my life, unexpected events, which I believe were God led. To find out how God led and how I achieved my vision read Identify your vision part 2 tomorrow.
In the mean time I want you to think about what your vision is for your future, your ideal life? Do you review it, think about it and do what ever it takes to achieve it? Is your life organized around goals and objectives that will ensure your vision is reached?
I am now working at achieving a new vision with the help of Success University. If you have a vision you need encouragement or the income to achieve join our team, and have a free trial today.
Gladys Walton
Define Success On Your Own Terms
“You are the only one who knows what’s going on beneath the surface of your life, so your definition of success must be specific to your own situation.”
According to Wikipedia Success may mean : a level of social status, achievement of an objective/goal, opposite of failure. What does success mean to you? Do you measure success by your standards or by other peoples standards? Do you compare your success with what the television portrays as success? Does being successful entail driving an expensive car, living in a big house, have a beautiful wife and lovely children, be a Manager, Director of a company with the income to match?…
Many people nowadays chase after succes, by trying to have, do or be what someone else has, does or is. Once they achieve that goal, however, they discover that they don’t feel successful at all. They have achieved success on the outside, but on the inside feel empty and unfulfilled. Why? Because they used someone elses definition of success instead of their own.
Reading the course Take Charge and Get Results by George J Morris on Success University this morning, made me stop again and think about what success means to me. I had to admit to myself that eventhough I am still working at achieving my goal of having a bigger house with enough room to host as many guest as we choose to, on Saturday I felt pretty successful. Watching and listening to my children singing in Spanish and performing a bible story, confidently saying their lines in front of two different audiences in one day, made me feel very succesful and the big house did not matter at that moment.
“As you move forward, contemplating your success, and as you begin to make decisions that will start you on your way, take care to make decisions that are consistent with your definition of success, and avoid decisions that create problems”. George J Morris
The story is told of Mark who had a dream to have a yellow Corvette. He was totally consumed by his dream and would sit and daydream, picturing how he would look driving it and what people would say seeing him in it. He would be successful and seen to be successful if he could buy that yellow corvette. After dreaming he would recalculate his finances and sigh, as the numbers told him once more that he could not afford it. Then the day came when Mark was promoted at work. With his promotion came a pay rise. Mark was so excited and the first thing he did was calculate if he could now afford his Corvette. Eventhough it would be a tight squeeze, he could afford it. He went to the dealer and drove home in his Corvette feeling he was finally successful.
As he got home, he spent three hours trying to justify his decision to his wife and three days sleeping on the sofa. To make matters worse, Mike had forgotten to calculate the extra cost for petrol needed to get to and from work, and had miscalculated the extra insurance costs. For the first time in his life since he left college, Mike found himself living from paycheck to paycheck. As the roof started leaking and the creditcards reached their limit, the success he felt when he first bought his Corvette faded and Mike realised he had made a mistake.
“When you make decisions, carefully consider how those decisions affect the other areas of your life, if the achievement of one goal causes problems and setbacks in your life, you need to re-examine your priorities and redefine what success means to you. Success begets success; if you successfully achieve a goal in one area of your life, it will compliment and support your continued success in other areas”.
Regardless of what type of success you are looking for, be it in business, career, group, organisation or in your personal life, it is important that you define your own terms for that success. A person who is working 60 hours a week, to afford the big house, has his house remortgaged to the limit, to afford the beautiful car and holidays every year, may seem successful to you on the outside, but does he really feel successful on the inside? If you had to do what he is doing, would you feel successful and at peace with yourself?
Define Success on your own terms, and have a free trial to find out how Success University can help you on your way.
Gladys Walton
